If you answer yes to some of the 41 questions below, you may have a co-sex addiction problem. The more yes answers, the more likely the problem is. If you would like more information about getting professional help to determine if you have a co-sexual addiction problem, click the Treatment button on the side pane

1. Have you ever felt hurt, ashamed or embarrassed by someone else’s sexual conduct?

2. Are you afraid to upset the sex addict for fear threat he or she will leave you?

3. Have you sometimes found yourself searching for clues about someone else’s sexual behavior?

4. Have you ever fantasized, obsessed or worried about someone else’s sexual problem?

5. Have you ever made threats to others or promises to yourself that you did not carry out such as “If this happens again, I’ll leave.”?

6. Have you ever tried to control someone else’s sexual thoughts or behavior by doing things like throwing away pornography, dressing suggestively, or being sexual with them in order to keep them from being sexual with others?

7. Has your involvement with another person or their sexual behavior ever affected your relationship with your children, your co-workers or other friends or family members?

8. Have you lied to others or made excuses to yourself about another person’s sexual conduct?

9. Have you had money problems because of someone else’s sexual behavior?

10. Have you engaged in sexual behavior that makes you feel uncomfortable or ashamed, or is physically dangerous, fearing that if you don’t the sex addict will leave you?

11. Have you ever felt confused and unable to separate what is true from what is not true when talking to the sex addict?

12. Have you ever thought about or attempted suicide because of someone else’s sexual behavior?

13. Have you often had sex in order to have peace in the family or to smooth over problems?

14. Does sex (for example thinking about it, doing it, talking about it, worrying about it) play an all-consuming role in your life?

15. Have you ever felt abandoned emotionally because of your partner’s use of pornography or masturbation?

16. Have you ever helped someone get out of gaol or other legal trouble as a result of his or her sexual behavior, or feared that this type of thing could happen?

17. Have you often thought that the sex addict’s behavior was caused by other people, such as friends or sexual partners? By society in general? By his/her job, religion, or family of origin?

18. Have you ever suspected that your partner was sexually interested in any of your children?

19. Do you feel alone in your problem?